What scares us more than the phenomena – whether ideational or material – that strikes us as intimidating, is the thought that should we fail to overcome a particular challenge, we will have to live with the self that failed. In other words, there is no more dreadful a punishment for failing, than that one is condemned to remember and relive the failure – both in one’s social life and mental life. Whether we have a fear of spiders or of police officers; whether we have a fear of taking tests or committing long term to a partner we are in love with, the source of the fear, generally speaking, is typically the same: we are afraid that our fragile views of ourselves could become even more dismal in the aftermath of a failed experience.